"they" is not a homogeneous group. "they" are different groups that might use the same label. They can absolutely use the same justification, to argue for opp

"they" is not a homogeneous group. "they" are different groups that might use the same label. They can absolutely use the same justification, to argue for opposite changes. Their justification could be as simple as, "We want to be respected," and different groups of feminists disagree with each other about how best to achieve that goal. Sure, it's even worse if you personally land in the crosshairs, but from your example it sounds like the feminists are working in different places with different languages. And perhaps the problem of gaining respect requires different solutions in different areas.