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> There will always be people offended by something. That does not mean every instance of offense should be ignored or dismissed, does it? How about addressing

> There will always be people offended by something. That does not mean every instance of offense should be ignored or dismissed, does it? How about addressing specific grievances instead of this extremely vague proclamation?

umvi 8y ago
How do you determine if the grievance is valid or not? Sometimes "addressing specific grievances" should be to recommend the greivers apply for therapy. There are people up in arms about Maryland's flag because the checkered pattern is a confederacy symbol which somehow triggers them. The best course of action for those people is not to change the Maryland flag but rather to get them therapy so they can learn how to live without getting offended.
- danharaj 8y ago
  > How do you determine if the grievance is valid or not? I can't give you an algorithm in advance that will let you decide every political and social issue ever. That's obviously not possible. There are heuristics, like. You can put yourself in the other person's shoes, try to empathize with them to figure out where they're coming from, and work out what their values and their reasoning is. You're a human being, a social creature whose most distinctive characteristic is extremely complex and nuanced communication. Your brain was made for this. > There are people up in arms about Maryland's flag because the checkered pattern is a confederacy symbol which somehow triggers them. The best course of action for those people is not to change the Maryland flag but rather to get them therapy so they can learn how to live without getting offended. I'm gonna let you in on a secret. If you treat everyone with contempt and dismissal, then every conclusion you come to about them will be contemptful dismissal.
- elliekelly 8y ago
  >Sometimes "addressing specific grievances" should be to recommend the greivers apply for therapy. People often assume I'm a man on reddit. A lot of the time I'll politely let them know that not everyone on reddit is a man. Are you suggesting that I ought to go to therapy instead?
  - umvi 8y ago
    If you became offended that someone assumed you were a man, then yes, I would recommend therapy. Politely correcting them? Of course not, that's a completely reasonable thing to do. Consistently taking offense where none was intended warrants therapy in my book.
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  - Double_a_92 8y ago
    If you became offended that someone assumed you were a man, then yes, I would recommend therapy. Politely correcting them? Of course not, that's a completely reasonable thing to do. Consistently taking offense where none was intended warrants therapy in my book.

umvi 8y ago

How do you determine if the grievance is valid or not? Sometimes "addressing specific grievances" should be to recommend the greivers apply for therapy. There are people up in arms about Maryland's flag because the checkered pattern is a confederacy symbol which somehow triggers them. The best course of action for those people is not to change the Maryland flag but rather to get them therapy so they can learn how to live without getting offended.

danharaj 8y ago
> How do you determine if the grievance is valid or not? I can't give you an algorithm in advance that will let you decide every political and social issue ever. That's obviously not possible. There are heuristics, like. You can put yourself in the other person's shoes, try to empathize with them to figure out where they're coming from, and work out what their values and their reasoning is. You're a human being, a social creature whose most distinctive characteristic is extremely complex and nuanced communication. Your brain was made for this. > There are people up in arms about Maryland's flag because the checkered pattern is a confederacy symbol which somehow triggers them. The best course of action for those people is not to change the Maryland flag but rather to get them therapy so they can learn how to live without getting offended. I'm gonna let you in on a secret. If you treat everyone with contempt and dismissal, then every conclusion you come to about them will be contemptful dismissal.
elliekelly 8y ago
>Sometimes "addressing specific grievances" should be to recommend the greivers apply for therapy. People often assume I'm a man on reddit. A lot of the time I'll politely let them know that not everyone on reddit is a man. Are you suggesting that I ought to go to therapy instead?
- umvi 8y ago
  If you became offended that someone assumed you were a man, then yes, I would recommend therapy. Politely correcting them? Of course not, that's a completely reasonable thing to do. Consistently taking offense where none was intended warrants therapy in my book.
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- Double_a_92 8y ago
  If you became offended that someone assumed you were a man, then yes, I would recommend therapy. Politely correcting them? Of course not, that's a completely reasonable thing to do. Consistently taking offense where none was intended warrants therapy in my book.