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We're looking at emotional abuse, not physical abuse. Trauma isn't necessarily being beaten half to death by your parents, it's also having nurturing and suppor
by ljm 8y ago
We're looking at emotional abuse, not physical abuse. Trauma isn't necessarily being beaten half to death by your parents, it's also having nurturing and support purposefully withdrawn, or being made wholly unavailable.
A kid can feel neglected and abandoned because they might have food and a roof over their head, but they're not getting nearly enough hugs and cuddles as they need. Or they grow older and they're not given any trust, the parents assume the worst intention the whole time and the kid becomes a scapegoat.
Or it's applied so inconsistently that you don't even know what's right and wrong, because you do one thing one day and it's praised and you do it the next day and you get your ass beaten for it.
It's not the sense of no future, it's the lack of nurture and care. And it festers because there's this whole belief that parents know best. The kid knows a damn lot too and needs to be heard.
- Nasrudith 8y agoI'm aware that emotional abuse can be quite damaging as well - despite how I may have phrased it poorly. I meant it more 'less than obvious' than emotional didn't matter. Still that is interesting and I wonder if it maps well to the rates of depression with the rise of paranoid helicopter parenting or if that is a spurious correlation in itself. I have remarked that parents these days seem to consider it /ideal/ to be acting like they are antagonists of a YA Dystopian novel where they see devices sold boasting "Track your children secretively through technology" and think "That sounds like a good idea." instead of "That sounds incredibly messed up and would be considered satire a few decades ago." It might be more of a middle class issue - I'll admit to not having intimate details across the economic spectrum.