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There's a distinction between addiction and habits and conditioning and, from my personal experience, you need to understand what is making you tick there. The
by ljm 8y ago
There's a distinction between addiction and habits and conditioning and, from my personal experience, you need to understand what is making you tick there.
There isn't a mapping of trauma to protection (which may lead to addiction). You do what you can to survive in one moment and, as you grow up, your methods of survival can become much more dangerous. And what you did to protect yourself as a kid won't serve you at all as an adult.
You might be addicted to Netflix because you were brought up in front of a TV. Is that trauma? That's between you and your therapist. You might be addicted to Netflix because it drowned out the sound of your dad yelling at your mum, and it gave you an escape. That's also between you and your therapist.
There's no prescription here, you have to explore how it all was for you and then you have to process it, how you protected yourself, and how you are now.
For example, an alcoholic might rely on booze because it numbs their emotions, and in their younger years they relied on suppressing their emotions in order to not be abused. Therefore to get emotional is overwhelming.
Or for me personally, I enjoy a drink or two because I have feelings I struggle with, that I wasn't allowed to feel, and I use the alcohol to maintain that. Before I could drink, I was withdrawn and I avoided people, after I could drink, I could go out and wear a mask. By drinking, I don't allow myself to feel what is really happening in me, to process it. A huge indicator of trauma.
I believe this is one of the few ways, if not the only way, to be compassionate with yourself and what you're going through and how you try to keep yourself together in it all.