FWIW, it took me a year and a half to establish a friendgroup in SF, and I didn't find it by meetsups or recreation, just by pure happenchance of finding someon

FWIW, it took me a year and a half to establish a friendgroup in SF, and I didn't find it by meetsups or recreation, just by pure happenchance of finding someone who WILL reply to your texts, and welcome you into their friendgroup. I also find friendgroups in SF to be fairly surface level, OR vibrant/intense but short-lived. That said, roommates are also a great way to expand your friend circle, though not all roommates are looking for that, and sometimes it takes a few different pairings to finally "click," with your roommates. I think drop-in sports/intramurual leagues are good for this, though I could be wrong. Join a kickball league or something maybe :)