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How would that help? If the draft makes you hard enough for reala world without killing you, why doesn't the real world make you hard enough for real world with

How would that help? If the draft makes you hard enough for reala world without killing you, why doesn't the real world make you hard enough for real world without killing you? These "overprotecting parents" are still around in the real world (or not), so what's the difference?

coldtea 8y ago
>why doesn't the real world make you hard enough for real world without killing you Obviously because the army does that in a controlled environment, where the expectations are already set for what you'll get (you're going there knowing it will be so and so -- and even at that there's army suicides, through much more rare considering the kind of stressor it is). Whereas overprotected people can go into the adult world thinking they will crush it and be rich, famous, free of drudgery, have the perfect love life, marriage, or whatever just for showing up (or just for "working hard"). You also do that along with others around your age, and you all go through the exact same shit, and are at it together 24/7. In short, the army emphasizes that you're not a precious snowflake from day one, you're just one of many in the camp, so you have time to soak this message in. Whereas in your "real life", failure will hit you hard, and it will feel like it's a personal failure. And, last but not least, you also know it's gonna end in 1 year or so, and everything's compartmentalized. It's not your life. Whereas a failure to get that dream job and having to scrap by can feel like your life (in toto) being a failure. >These "overprotecting parents" are still around in the real world (or not), so what's the difference? The role of the "overprotecting parents" ends both when you enter the camp or the adult world. They can't fix things for you in either case (e.g. fix your broken job dreams or love life).

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How would that help? If the draft makes you hard enough for reala world without killing you, why doesn't the real world make you hard enough for real world with

by fjsolwmv 8y ago

coldtea 8y ago
>why doesn't the real world make you hard enough for real world without killing you Obviously because the army does that in a controlled environment, where the expectations are already set for what you'll get (you're going there knowing it will be so and so -- and even at that there's army suicides, through much more rare considering the kind of stressor it is). Whereas overprotected people can go into the adult world thinking they will crush it and be rich, famous, free of drudgery, have the perfect love life, marriage, or whatever just for showing up (or just for "working hard"). You also do that along with others around your age, and you all go through the exact same shit, and are at it together 24/7. In short, the army emphasizes that you're not a precious snowflake from day one, you're just one of many in the camp, so you have time to soak this message in. Whereas in your "real life", failure will hit you hard, and it will feel like it's a personal failure. And, last but not least, you also know it's gonna end in 1 year or so, and everything's compartmentalized. It's not your life. Whereas a failure to get that dream job and having to scrap by can feel like your life (in toto) being a failure. >These "overprotecting parents" are still around in the real world (or not), so what's the difference? The role of the "overprotecting parents" ends both when you enter the camp or the adult world. They can't fix things for you in either case (e.g. fix your broken job dreams or love life).