Just ask it politely, softly, with a smile and a genuine interest. Only Ron Swanson-esque people who see an order/demand in a friendly request would get offende

Just ask it politely, softly, with a smile and a genuine interest. Only Ron Swanson-esque people who see an order/demand in a friendly request would get offended. And if someone gets offended and thinks this is arrogant/belittling by such a polite request as this, then it's a bad sign that they aren't going to be able to handle conversations with me where I encourage non-PC exploration of tough issues. How fragile is someone's sense of self and ego if that is a powerful trigger? It's a great weed-out for PC individuals honestly, if you think that's belittling then I probably don't want to talk further with you.