One of the hardest parts of grieving is trying to ignore all the "What if?" questions. What if I had listened more? What if I hadn't tried to fix everything? et

One of the hardest parts of grieving is trying to ignore all the "What if?" questions. What if I had listened more? What if I hadn't tried to fix everything? etc. It sounds like you were a great friend. Those visits probably meant the world to him, regardless if you were massaging his feet or just chatting.