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Yes, guilty as charged. We have the ability to have unlimited help. HOWEVER, when you have a child you don't want to outsource it (at least if you're well adju

Yes, guilty as charged. We have the ability to have unlimited help. HOWEVER, when you have a child you don't want to outsource it (at least if you're well adjusted from what I can tell). Do we have a full-time nanny? yes. A full-time house keeper? yes. night nurse, 24 hour folks? nope. Basically i want to spend the weekend with the kid, not hand her off and go play poker for 12 hours. well, that's not exactly true... i want to do everything, but realize that until we remove sleep from our list of needs, or develop clones, i've got to choose! it's hard for EVERYONE, let alone those with limited resources. this is why i have big respect to SINGLE parents. can you imagine doing a startup AND raising a kid--alone! they should make a move about that. :-)

Mz 16y ago
I'm not suggesting you are "guilty" of anything. Just that reading what someone like you is doing to cope with such a situation isn't likely to help someone like me figure out how to move forward in terms of juggling all the things I have to deal with. And folks like me are probably a lot more abundant than folks like you. I have health problems, financial problems, am divorced and still have two sons living with me. They are both legal adults but neither has an income of their own and they are both special needs kids (as am I). This is the best quality of life situation I have ever had and in some ways I am also fairly privileged: I still get substantial alimony (many women don't get substantial alimony long term) and I have some education and I'm reasonably intelligent. So I am not without assets of my own, even extraordinary/unusual assets. Still, I remain enormously frustrated with my own desire to start something on the side that might someday allow me to work from home and leave my day job -- which isn't simply a "want" in my case. Because of my health issues and the issues my sons have (one of whom has the same medical condition I have), we really need to make that happen. So when I see pieces about how someone is juggling work, kids, and a side project, I read it in hopes it will help me. But people with a nanny probably don't have much to say that will help me move my goals and projects forward. That's a completely different sphere than the one I live in. That's all I'm saying. Has nothing to do with anyone being guilty of something. Peace.

Mz 16y ago

I'm not suggesting you are "guilty" of anything. Just that reading what someone like you is doing to cope with such a situation isn't likely to help someone like me figure out how to move forward in terms of juggling all the things I have to deal with. And folks like me are probably a lot more abundant than folks like you. I have health problems, financial problems, am divorced and still have two sons living with me. They are both legal adults but neither has an income of their own and they are both special needs kids (as am I). This is the best quality of life situation I have ever had and in some ways I am also fairly privileged: I still get substantial alimony (many women don't get substantial alimony long term) and I have some education and I'm reasonably intelligent. So I am not without assets of my own, even extraordinary/unusual assets. Still, I remain enormously frustrated with my own desire to start something on the side that might someday allow me to work from home and leave my day job -- which isn't simply a "want" in my case. Because of my health issues and the issues my sons have (one of whom has the same medical condition I have), we really need to make that happen. So when I see pieces about how someone is juggling work, kids, and a side project, I read it in hopes it will help me. But people with a nanny probably don't have much to say that will help me move my goals and projects forward. That's a completely different sphere than the one I live in. That's all I'm saying. Has nothing to do with anyone being guilty of something. Peace.