First, please stop labeling yourself as an introvert/failure/whatever. It will do you good. Being an introvert is first and foremost the ability to extract ene

First, please stop labeling yourself as an introvert/failure/whatever. It will do you good. Being an introvert is first and foremost the ability to extract energy from what you're doing rather than needing an audience to survive. It does not mean, however, that you should not talk to people just because you don't feel like talking. Everyone needs at least a couple friends to talk to. By only talking to yourself, it's very easy to get depressed. So talk to people, get _new_ friends. Find another context where you'll be meeting new people – take up some hobby for example. Programming, wood carving, whatever. Go to and organize some meetups with them. Forget your past. It's all gone. Every single person on Earth has a shitload of missed opportunities. That's ok. It's never late to start doing what you want. Start reading http://diveintopython.org/ http://diveintopython.org/ or whatever else you'll find right today. You'll be doing great stuff in no time. Also, a girlfriend is immensely valuable but she's not a substitute for other friends, remember that. PS I was once such a terrible introvert that I barely talked at all and was afraid to even call people, so I got a part-time job with a lot of calling and now people are not a problem for me. Cheer up and good luck! You can do it.