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the only way to meet friends is to be outgoing, being an introvert makes this very hard Argh. An introvert is not defined as somebody who cannot make friends,
by frossie 16y ago
the only way to meet friends is to be outgoing, being an introvert makes this very hard
Argh. An introvert is not defined as somebody who cannot make friends, it's somebody who doesn't feel the need to make many friends.
If you want friends and can't make them, your problem is not introversion (which is not a problem, it is a natural personality state) - it's shyness, or something worse.
To the OP I would say this: it's never too late to turn your life around. Seek help if you can (I do think the level of anxiety you report sounds worse than the average cage of college-itis) but don't think that your past needs to determine your future. Set yourself small achievable goals, and do them. Getting things done is easier for some than others, but it is a habit that anyone healthy can learn.
- sp4rki 16y agoSince the advise was directed to the OP and he labels himself as a "shy, kind of an introvert" person I was kind of directing my response at that specifically, though an introvert that's also a person who want's to make friends is a total oxymoron. You're totally right in that the OP is probably not an introvert, but I found it easier to use the term loosely for my advice. Should have known better since I am actually an introvert, but I have boatloads of friends and good social skills. In any case, great advice. Hope the OP reads it also.