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I was an incel for a long time. I wasn't mad at anyone for not being attracted to me, just upset with myself for having some genetic conditions that are not yet

I was an incel for a long time. I wasn't mad at anyone for not being attracted to me, just upset with myself for having some genetic conditions that are not yet curable. I think a lot of people in my position would be almost completely satisfied with legalized prostitution. Some romantic female contact, even if it's done purely as a financial transaction, can really change people's lives for the better.

OpenBSD-reich 8y ago
YES! So much this! As a current incel I don't hate women for not being attracted to me either. So many of us are harmless, cuddly, and completely frustrated by the isolation and insurmountable failures. Much of the bants found on places like /r/incels is a combination of letting off high pressure steam and chemo to ensure the incel safe-space is free of women and "normies." Anyone (especially women readers) want to get a taste of the incel experience? Hit Google Image Search and look for galleries of three types of men: typically unattractive and/or fat geeky/nerdy men, typical average Joe with a minimal beer gut at worst, and a 9-10/10 chiseled jaw cut body gym rat. Make profiles for each (with some effort), share the same text across all three. Do this on all popular dating sites and apps. Count how many messages/swipes it takes to a phone number. With nerd you'll likely spend months getting zero. With Joe you'll spend weeks to get one or two. With chiseled Chad they'll pour in within hours. With Joe and Nerd you can dump great effort into your content and get almost no increase in stats. With chiseled Chad you can say you were a recently released child rapist, a white nationalist who thinks it's time to gas all jews, simply open with "wanna fukc?" as your first message, and still do very very well. Chiseled Chad can do no wrong. Frankly, the "men are so shallow" meme needs to die. Dating sites need to go against better money and statistically boost the low match/message users over the sexy users. It won't happen though, and short of making only men eligible for welfare or instituting a single woman tax (economically rendering women dependent on relationships with men), women will continue to be highly selective and prefer singlehood over relationships with "less attractive" men. Prostitution would be a boon to us IMO, and would be a far more palatable solution than economic pressure. If only men could have an outlet to not be so "thirsty"...

OpenBSD-reich 8y ago

YES! So much this! As a current incel I don't hate women for not being attracted to me either. So many of us are harmless, cuddly, and completely frustrated by the isolation and insurmountable failures. Much of the bants found on places like /r/incels is a combination of letting off high pressure steam and chemo to ensure the incel safe-space is free of women and "normies." Anyone (especially women readers) want to get a taste of the incel experience? Hit Google Image Search and look for galleries of three types of men: typically unattractive and/or fat geeky/nerdy men, typical average Joe with a minimal beer gut at worst, and a 9-10/10 chiseled jaw cut body gym rat. Make profiles for each (with some effort), share the same text across all three. Do this on all popular dating sites and apps. Count how many messages/swipes it takes to a phone number. With nerd you'll likely spend months getting zero. With Joe you'll spend weeks to get one or two. With chiseled Chad they'll pour in within hours. With Joe and Nerd you can dump great effort into your content and get almost no increase in stats. With chiseled Chad you can say you were a recently released child rapist, a white nationalist who thinks it's time to gas all jews, simply open with "wanna fukc?" as your first message, and still do very very well. Chiseled Chad can do no wrong. Frankly, the "men are so shallow" meme needs to die. Dating sites need to go against better money and statistically boost the low match/message users over the sexy users. It won't happen though, and short of making only men eligible for welfare or instituting a single woman tax (economically rendering women dependent on relationships with men), women will continue to be highly selective and prefer singlehood over relationships with "less attractive" men. Prostitution would be a boon to us IMO, and would be a far more palatable solution than economic pressure. If only men could have an outlet to not be so "thirsty"...