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Just a polite reminder that using "butthurt" to mean "resentful"or "angry" paints a picture that is often homophobic and nearly always making light of rape. In
by ForrestN 8y ago
Just a polite reminder that using "butthurt" to mean "resentful"or "angry" paints a picture that is often homophobic and nearly always making light of rape. In my opinion, we should try not to normalize its use any further.
- ehsanu1 8y agohttps://english.stackexchange.com/questions/323628/etymology-of-butthurt https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/323628/etymology...
- ForrestN 8y agoThis is incorrect. Derivation doesn’t prove usage. http://persephonemagazine.com/2013/01/can-we-please-stop-using-the-term-butthurt/ http://persephonemagazine.com/2013/01/can-we-please-stop-usi...
- ehsanu1 8y agoDoes inappropriate adoption of a word necessarily preclude its use in its original form? Example: "autistic". In recent times, this word is sometimes used as an insult, which seems to me to be somewhat offensive to those with the actual syndrome. However, referring to those who do have the syndrome as medically autistic is obviously not offensive. This is a more clear-cut example to make the point that misappropriating a word and giving it secondary connotations in certain contexts does not make the word unfit for use in all cases.
- spangry 8y ago"Essentially, the term is used when someone is upset that someone else has gotten the better or them or beaten them or bested them in some way. That is to say, they dominated them. You know, like when someone is raped." Your source is the blog entry of some self-professed 'angry feminist' making up an etymology and then trying to police everyone's language on that basis. People like this are such insufferable know-it-alls.
- carapace 8y agohttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_retentiveness https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_retentiveness
- alsetmusic 8y agoThere are zero citations in that entry at this time. It’s essentially an op-ed.
- carapace 8y agoI do not mean to promote the validity of Freudian psychology, I'm pointing out that the term "butthurt" is part of a universal human "thing" that has been going on and acknowledged for hundreds (if not thousands) of years. I.e. "Asshole", "blow it out your ass", "stick it in your ass", "pound sand up your ass", "shit head", etc... I had never previously made a connection between that term and anal rape and frankly I'm irritated that ForrestN put the idea in my head. Now, I know what it's like when you have a pet peeve about public discourse. For me, I wish people didn't use the term "cakewalk" or phrase "piece of cake", even though they do it innocently, because I once went and looked it up and it's fucking horrible. (If you go look it up, brace yourself, it's really ugly. It has to do with American slavery. You've been warned.) I have this idea, I call it "The Grey File". It's like an idea for a sci-fi story. In the near future history will be controlled and whitewashed. All of the crazy bad stuff we used to do is almost entirely forgotten, but records are kept in a kind of museum called the Grey File. It's built in the middle of the desert, or on Antarctica, or somewhere inaccessible, and it's staffed by inmates: perverts who get off on corrupting innocence. It's kind of a prison for them. The thing is, I can't tell if this idea is dystopian or utopian.
- TheSpiceIsLife 8y agoI just read the Wikipedia entry on the term cakewalk, I didn't see anything horrible. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cakewalk https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cakewalk
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- vernie 8y agoI've always thought of it in terms of the buttocks rather than the anus.
- dirkgently 8y agoWhile I agree with your sentiment, I don't know if butthurt has anything to do with homophobia. Butt is not same as butthole.
- hermitdev 8y agoYeah, I dont see butthurt as being any different than "pain in the ass", and I've never heard "pain in the ads" referred to as homophobic.
- spangry 8y ago"Often" homophobic? "Nearly always" making light of rape? Are you just making this stuff up?
- ForrestN 8y agohttp://persephonemagazine.com/2013/01/can-we-please-stop-using-the-term-butthurt/ http://persephonemagazine.com/2013/01/can-we-please-stop-usi...
- philamonster 8y agoI tend to agree here. I can recall it being referenced in flame wars on various forums nearly 20 years ago followed by faggot and absolutely referencing anal rape. Thinking about the personalities that used the term and yeah, they absolutely meant it as such. I don't care what knowyourmeme or stackexchange has to say on the matter because they clearly don't speak to my experience with the intent of those that used the term.