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Yeah, you're right, it is about me. But what do you want me to say? That it works for everyone? A lot of my good friends are photographers so most of my portra
by jamesteow 16y ago
Yeah, you're right, it is about me. But what do you want me to say? That it works for everyone?
A lot of my good friends are photographers so most of my portraits are taken from them. Thus, I think my photos are well executed compared to self portraits taken via mirrors/cellphones.
My profile is pretty genuine. I don't aim to be pretentious or egotistical.
When I contact people, I usually start up with something that's related to their profile or something that's in common as to help talk about something interesting. Thus, no disrespectful pick-up lines or gratuitous photos.
Contacted about... 21 people over six months (people of different levels of attractiveness)? Received like... 1 reply.
So, congratulations on the site working very well for you. Really. But, not everyone has such fortunate results despite doing things that are civil and respectful. So when people say, "so if you actually read their profile and send intelligent messages selectively, you'll get responses" well I can say it doesn't always work.
- FooBarWidget 16y agoMaybe 1 reply in 25 is normal for most people.
- whimsy 16y agoIt isn't according to OkCupid's exposed stats. Average reply rate to messages sent by males is between 1/3 and 1/4 (varying by age). If you hunt through the OkCupid blog archive, you can find the relevant stats. (I think they were released this year.)
- jamesteow 16y agoAh. The truth hurts.
- whimsy 16y agohttp://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/ http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dati... is the relevant post, I think. It looks like I was wrong about it varying by age. (Maybe that was another post, though.) http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/online-dating-advice-exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message/ http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/online-dating-advice-exact... may be relevant to your interests as well.