Something I ask myself all the time: how will I be able to tell when we've reached actual totalitarianism in the West? It won't be Chinese style totalitarianism

Something I ask myself all the time: how will I be able to tell when we've reached actual totalitarianism in the West? It won't be Chinese style totalitarianism, and I'm pretty sure they won't helpfully dress up in jackboots and announce things have reached peak totalitarianism. Would we notice at all?