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There are substantially more women than men on eHarmony. The paywall really keeps out the riff-raff.

• dkarl 16y ago
  I think the premise (looking for marriage) puts a lot of guys off. Even though marriage is exactly what I'm looking for, I steer clear of eHarmony because I'm afraid of what kind of women it might attract. I have a friend who got married to a woman he met on eHarmony, and he seems happy. Still, I have this horrible fear of meeting a woman who has marriage tunnel vision and through sheer determination makes it work somehow even though it shouldn't. I know it's a stereotype of the marriage-obsessed woman, but my only concrete model for this fear is a woman I know whose husband feigned a lot of interests and personal characteristics that he dropped within a month of getting married, not to mention that he suddenly started nagging her to change a bunch of things about herself that he never seemed to mind before. So it's a fear I would expect women to have, too. It surprises me that anyone is on eHarmony at all!
  • teach 16y ago
    I do understand that pressure to "make it work". But it totally wasn't there for either my wife or I. I was matched with over 300 women during the 3 months that I was enrolled, and my (now) wife was in grad school finishing her dissertation. She wasn't in any hurry to settle down, and I was eager to cross off women that weren't perfectly (truly) suitable so I could move to the next one on the list!