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Perhaps there's some emotional issues I have right now. But please don't mistake cause and effect. I didn't lose my job due to mental illness. I feel very disc

Perhaps there's some emotional issues I have right now. But please don't mistake cause and effect. I didn't lose my job due to mental illness. I feel very discouraged because I've failed to find a job, and now I'm physically separated from my girlfriend and other friend groups. I'm trying to make new friends, but my parents keep moving me around (Geneva, now UK, next Germany). Instead of teaching me how to get a job, people just tell me my résumé is awful, as if that would help.

aerovistae 8y ago
I think if you are clever enough to figure out how to create all the many things you have created, you are clever enough to look at a range of successful resumes and emulate them. This is a much less involved task than any of the projects listed on your website.
WhitneyLand 8y ago
>>Instead of teaching me how to get a job, people just >>tell me my résumé is awful, as if that would help. Hey full eempathy and encouragement for you, but you’re making a mistake here. First, yes a resume is a small thing but unfortunately they can matter and can influence your succces so flip that bit in your thinking as soon as possible. Secondly some could interpret the comment as attitude of being ungrateful or low motivation. Forget whether or not you meant it, just think about how it can be heard. Yes we’re all friends here and honesty is good. But still, however much it sucks for you now, still gotta lead with your best foot. Sometimes a friendly community is also one with people who may offer help or offer suggestions, in proportion to how well your message comes acrosss.
exikyut 8y ago
Mental illness can catalyze the cause->effect cycle when it comes to perception/internalization/response however. For what it's worth, I was diagnosed with autism just over 10 years ago, and I perceive a lot of the areas I still trip over as having a strong emotional component and/or basis. Autism is generally recognized as a cognitive (ie, logical) developmental disorder, but emotional processing is also heavily impacted too, and I don't think there's as much recognition or acceptance of that - which is very unfair, since good emotional equilibrium is fundamental to being able to manage things with happiness and confidence. Also, social skills such as communication have a strong emotional foundation, and trying to teach such skills as pure logic is unbelievably confusing :/ As a (kind of obvious, but still possibly useful) aside, I go completely emotionally off-kilter when my nervous system is overloaded, which happens all too easily for me due to thyroid issues. That's just me though. (Currently looking for alternatives to thyroxine, which once you start you can't safely stop!)
mastazi 8y ago
> people just tell me my résumé is awful, as if that would help. Improving your resume would definitely help, I see from your comment history that several people gave you the same kind of advice over and over (e.g. remove the pictures, remove or shorten the preamble). Of course it may be that everyone else is wrong and you are right, but maybe you could give it a go?

aerovistae 8y ago

I think if you are clever enough to figure out how to create all the many things you have created, you are clever enough to look at a range of successful resumes and emulate them. This is a much less involved task than any of the projects listed on your website.

WhitneyLand 8y ago

>>Instead of teaching me how to get a job, people just >>tell me my résumé is awful, as if that would help. Hey full eempathy and encouragement for you, but you’re making a mistake here. First, yes a resume is a small thing but unfortunately they can matter and can influence your succces so flip that bit in your thinking as soon as possible. Secondly some could interpret the comment as attitude of being ungrateful or low motivation. Forget whether or not you meant it, just think about how it can be heard. Yes we’re all friends here and honesty is good. But still, however much it sucks for you now, still gotta lead with your best foot. Sometimes a friendly community is also one with people who may offer help or offer suggestions, in proportion to how well your message comes acrosss.

exikyut 8y ago

Mental illness can catalyze the cause->effect cycle when it comes to perception/internalization/response however. For what it's worth, I was diagnosed with autism just over 10 years ago, and I perceive a lot of the areas I still trip over as having a strong emotional component and/or basis. Autism is generally recognized as a cognitive (ie, logical) developmental disorder, but emotional processing is also heavily impacted too, and I don't think there's as much recognition or acceptance of that - which is very unfair, since good emotional equilibrium is fundamental to being able to manage things with happiness and confidence. Also, social skills such as communication have a strong emotional foundation, and trying to teach such skills as pure logic is unbelievably confusing :/ As a (kind of obvious, but still possibly useful) aside, I go completely emotionally off-kilter when my nervous system is overloaded, which happens all too easily for me due to thyroid issues. That's just me though. (Currently looking for alternatives to thyroxine, which once you start you can't safely stop!)

mastazi 8y ago

> people just tell me my résumé is awful, as if that would help. Improving your resume would definitely help, I see from your comment history that several people gave you the same kind of advice over and over (e.g. remove the pictures, remove or shorten the preamble). Of course it may be that everyone else is wrong and you are right, but maybe you could give it a go?