I am also an eHarmony success story. Met my girlfriend there, we'll have been together for 8 months next week, already planning on moving in together next summe

I am also an eHarmony success story. Met my girlfriend there, we'll have been together for 8 months next week, already planning on moving in together next summer (we probably would have already if we hadn't both renewed leases right around the time we met). With online dating in general, I think what you get out of it really comes down to what your attitude going in is. I saw sites like eHarmony and OKCupid as primarily ways to be introduced to more people. If I struck up a conversation with anyone, I'd ask to meet them fairly quickly, and would approach those dates with a pretty laid-back, no-obligation, "let's meet this person and see how we get along" attitude. Going in relaxed like that really takes a lot of the pressure off and makes it easier to just get to know someone.