I know it's a crappy answer, but "change jobs". Making a dysfunctional situation work is way more difficult than just finding a different situation. The good

I know it's a crappy answer, but "change jobs". Making a dysfunctional situation work is way more difficult than just finding a different situation. The good thing is that compared to folks who are plumbers or truck drivers or cooks, it's much easier to do that for folks working on code. It is wholly anecdotal, but the biggest quality of life improvement I've ever had was finding a full-time, 100% remote job that had good boundaries on how much work was expected. At this point, I've negotiated the workload to 30 hours a week and I can sit in an environment that I've setup with only my personal needs in mind. The pay and benefits are not as good as they would be for the same job with a larger company, but the work is still fun and interesting and expectations on quality are very high. I had to join a climbing gym because I want to find folks to socialize with, but that's had a lot of other good benefits.