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I don't think being a bit kinky on the side in any way legitimises the tired old biologistic narratives. The problem here isn't just that they (in the best cas

I don't think being a bit kinky on the side in any way legitimises the tired old biologistic narratives. The problem here isn't just that they (in the best case) mix up what is (was) and what aught to be. It's just that your argument has nothing to do with the question? Because you could just as easily make the same kind of argument for why feminine women are considered more beautiful, in perfect symmetry with your argument. Yet OP was wondering specifically about an asymmetric cultural standard.

nailer 8y ago
You're confusing art and sex, but OK. Well yes, feminine women are considered more beautiful. Many women often wear more masculine clothing to hide their femininity for this exact reason. And yes, in the same way being unmasculine men are not highly valued by women, unfeminine women are not highly valued by men. Too much hair, or a taste in baggy flannel clothing makes a woman feel less loved by society in the same way. The culture is pretty consistent here. You may find biology tired, but it's motivating most life including our own. That the observation is common doesn't invalidate it, any more than the year-zero style narrative about everyone hating women being fashionable invalidate them. The truth exists independently of popularity and fashion.