I think one of the things that really hampered me was believing that attractiveness is: 1. always universal/objective 2. one dimensional I took myself out of d

I think one of the things that really hampered me was believing that attractiveness is: 1. always universal/objective 2. one dimensional I took myself out of dating for a long time because of that set of beliefs combined with stats like the one you've posted. The truth is that different people find different types of people attractive. There are a few people who are just attractive (ironically a good number of those people are rather lonely because their good looks are intimidating) but the vast majority of people are attractive to some and not to others. Also, even how you present yourself matters a lot. Making yourself appear attractive does require some effort but it's not something you're stuck with. If you're into long term relationships, you really only need a handful of people to find your attractive. The odds are actually in your favor when your sample size is large enough, which on a dating app it usually is.