I think I'm roughly on par with you. I spend 40 give or take at work and then come home and bang away on a side project. My girlfriend luckily has some crochet

I think I'm roughly on par with you. I spend 40 give or take at work and then come home and bang away on a side project. My girlfriend luckily has some crochet projects usually so all day Sunday I can work on my side project (6-8 hours) plus about 2 hours a night another 4 nights out of the week. So say maybe 15 hours a week on my side project not counting other research and such I do for it (researching hosting plans, new gems to make life easier, etc). Given that there are only 24 hours in a day, pulling a 16 hour day frequently means you're not getting much sleep nor much of anything else ;) Worry less about what other people can do. It's an ego-oriented goal and it can end up causing you to feel defeated as well as lose track of your real purpose. Instead focus on whether or not you feel like you could do more, and whether or not it's worth it. You've got plenty of company no matter what you decide. :)