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> while American parents don't even hit their kids. I remember being hit until I stopped crying. And that's considered normal reply I was an American kid hit

> while American parents don't even hit their kids. I remember being hit until I stopped crying. And that's considered normal reply I was an American kid hit (many times) by parents. What you find "funny" is, well, bullshit. Consider that abuse is abuse regardless of demographic.

blub 8y ago
Why were you getting hit by your parents? I could see it being abuse if it happens for no reason or minor things. In general I have the feeling that americans kiss their kids' ass too much.
- thewhitetulip 8y ago
  Well, mother was "strict" so she would "discipline" me. But there is a big difference between mental and physical abuse and discipline but typically, Indian parents don't recognize it But its ok. I'm over it. Whatever I am is because of my past, or rather despite it.
  - blub 8y ago
    My parents loved me and I knew that, they sacrificed a lot for me. Physical punishment happened rarely and "for a reason". Looking back, I don't think I was hurt by that kind of disciplining. Anyway, something has to be used by parents to discipline their children; give them free courses, brochures, whatever with the proven methods to get kids under control. I've seen some complete parenting failures which resulted in very spoiled and rude kids.
    - thewhitetulip 8y ago
      Thing is, Indian parents think hitting is the only way to discipline kids. But you can raise them without hitting. American kids are more independent than Indian kids for a good reason. I've seen in movies that "curfew for a month" (or whatever they call it) That never happens in India. Also the new gen parents are utter failures, at lesst majority. Both parents work, both travel a lot to and from office, so much so that they are weekend parents and their kids are raised by Youtube. Or course there are good number of exceptions too. But majority kids these days are raised by youtube My nephew doesn't do anything unless you hand him youtube. He won't eat, brush or anything else.
thewhitetulip 8y ago
> Abuse is abuse I know. I was at the receiving end of it. I didn't and still don't find abuse as funny. What is funny is the massive difference in raising kids. Typical American families treat their kids with respect and let them be independent. But here in India, if kids are independent by birth they are beaten badly for "speaking like an adult when it is not your place". I've seen girls and boys who are 20+yrs old and their mothers buy underwears for them!! Isn't it funny? And since you were hit as a child. Tell me, do you remember being beaten for a pointless reason and then you started crying and then your parents kept beating you until you stopped crying?

blub 8y ago

Why were you getting hit by your parents? I could see it being abuse if it happens for no reason or minor things. In general I have the feeling that americans kiss their kids' ass too much.

thewhitetulip 8y ago
Well, mother was "strict" so she would "discipline" me. But there is a big difference between mental and physical abuse and discipline but typically, Indian parents don't recognize it But its ok. I'm over it. Whatever I am is because of my past, or rather despite it.
- blub 8y ago
  My parents loved me and I knew that, they sacrificed a lot for me. Physical punishment happened rarely and "for a reason". Looking back, I don't think I was hurt by that kind of disciplining. Anyway, something has to be used by parents to discipline their children; give them free courses, brochures, whatever with the proven methods to get kids under control. I've seen some complete parenting failures which resulted in very spoiled and rude kids.
  - thewhitetulip 8y ago
    Thing is, Indian parents think hitting is the only way to discipline kids. But you can raise them without hitting. American kids are more independent than Indian kids for a good reason. I've seen in movies that "curfew for a month" (or whatever they call it) That never happens in India. Also the new gen parents are utter failures, at lesst majority. Both parents work, both travel a lot to and from office, so much so that they are weekend parents and their kids are raised by Youtube. Or course there are good number of exceptions too. But majority kids these days are raised by youtube My nephew doesn't do anything unless you hand him youtube. He won't eat, brush or anything else.

thewhitetulip 8y ago

> Abuse is abuse I know. I was at the receiving end of it. I didn't and still don't find abuse as funny. What is funny is the massive difference in raising kids. Typical American families treat their kids with respect and let them be independent. But here in India, if kids are independent by birth they are beaten badly for "speaking like an adult when it is not your place". I've seen girls and boys who are 20+yrs old and their mothers buy underwears for them!! Isn't it funny? And since you were hit as a child. Tell me, do you remember being beaten for a pointless reason and then you started crying and then your parents kept beating you until you stopped crying?