> I never figured out what piece of the puzzle I was missing. You might then be interested in doing some research on the 60s term "vibes". It could be that it

> I never figured out what piece of the puzzle I was missing. You might then be interested in doing some research on the 60s term "vibes". It could be that it was your mother's vibes, more than the house decor, which must have made her socially attractive. But yea I see what you are saying in essence. It has been part of your "social conditioning" (if we do X we get Y). In (traditional) India, one stellar example of the male social conditioning is that "if I get a good paying job, I'll get a pretty wife".