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There's something wrong with your sample. I personally know multiple mothers who deeply regret the physical damage done by pregnancy and birth, and don't feel e
by lazyasciiart 8y ago
There's something wrong with your sample. I personally know multiple mothers who deeply regret the physical damage done by pregnancy and birth, and don't feel even a little bit stronger for having spent a month on hospital bed rest with pre-eclampsia, or tearing their vaginas during birth and being unable to lift their own newborn baby, or weakened abdominal muscles from pregnancy so she still isn't allowed to run with her baby now five months old, or spending six months unable to keep down water and losing weight due to morning sickness. They're grateful to have the kid, yes, but they don't delude themselves that it was a wonderful spiritual experience.
- philipov 8y agoNot everyone is even grateful for having the kids, and feel coerced into it by society, family, and spouse.
- isoskeles 8y ago> society, family, and spouse Got it. Anyone but themselves.
- philipov 8y agoYeah, blame the victim some more. That's a good look.
- creep 8y agoI mean, if you have a kid because society tells you to have a kid, I'd say the kid is the victim and that the adult made a poor decision under pressure. That's not victimhood, that's a mistake.
- ianai 8y agoThough victims being pushed into bad choices by coercive people is a thing. But these are of course just labels. Only so helpful.
- lazyasciiart 8y agoWell, people don't usually consider themselves to be coerced by themselves, so it makes sense that anyone who feels they were coerced into it is blaming someone else.
- creep 8y ago>but they don't delude themselves that it was a wonderful spiritual experience. For some it is. For some it's not. I was providing a counter-example to the OP's lament.
- lazyasciiart 8y agoIt sounded like you were making a claim about all women, so I wanted to make it clear that this does not hold for all women.
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