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In a way, there is already however it is not very popular in society at the moment. The answer is for the woman to have kids, or at least 1 kid, when the woman

In a way, there is already however it is not very popular in society at the moment. The answer is for the woman to have kids, or at least 1 kid, when the woman is younger. Varies by woman, but late teens or 20-22 years of age, greatly reduces risks both in that first pregnancy and in later pregnancies. My personal view is that the high school--> college --> job track should be allowed to be interrupted or otherwise modified, so that people don't have to wait until they are almost 30 to start thinking about kids. But I don't have a fully fleshed out theory as to how to do that.

CalRobert 8y ago
I wonder when "wait to have kids" starts to become bad advice. It was one thing to wait until high school, then college, but it seems like a _lot_ of people I know are waiting until they're financially stable and then discovering they're not there at 35 years old and looking at a hockey stick curve for likelihood of autism, etc. It's part of why my wife and I had a kid at 34. Not to mention that if having kids is so great (and so far I do quite like it) we should logically want to maximize the time we have our kids in our lives, not minimize it. More generally, though, I think this is a problem of how in an age of plenty we demand a huge chunk of your waking hours just to produce enough income to live whatever we've decided is a decent life, though a lot of this time is spent making other people - be they landlords or people who bought a house in the 80's or 90's, rich. Working half the hours generally means far less than half the pay, and many women see that their careers are destroyed if they take time out to raise a kid (perhaps some men do too, but it usually falls to the mom).
- irrational 8y ago
  At least people should be educated about the possible effects of having children late in life as part of high school sex education. I have quite a lot of coworker women that are in their mid to late 30s who are astonished to learn that there are potential complications associated with having children at that age. Without exception they have expressed the desire that these potential complications had been communicated to them earlier in life.
- onetimemanytime 8y ago
  >>I wonder when "wait to have kids" starts to become bad advice. It already is, but people try to balance to the best they could--given today's reality (Congrats! You're 22 but no money and no "good father material" so...wait). Our genes weren't developed in the last 4 decades where women work and seek careers and then think of having children. It's not sexist or misogynistic, it's the reality of our genes. 22 is a woman's best age to have kids. The more you postpone, greater are the problems, even for the children. Pregnant women over 35 have/had to do the Down Syndrome echo. Why? Because women over a certain age are more likely to have children with issues. This may apply to men as sperm cells have had, say 50 years, to screw up the copying or to get damaged.
  - ianai 8y ago
    The “quote” from someone is along the lines of “The most valuable person to society is a young woman. The least valuable person to society is a young man.” As a man, I experienced that quite acutely. Still do though now I “have more to offer” and I sometimes feel like I’m being valued more than I was in the past. It’s hard to tell through the years of abuse and bullying. We live in a dysfunctionally sick culture.
toast0 8y ago
Having kids in your early twenties helps with a lot of physical aspects, but a lot of people aren't ready to be in a long term committed relationship at that point, so it would seem that it's sacrificing emotional well-being for physical well-being. Certainly both factors feed into the other. I think a lot of what's pushing people to have kids later is the desire to have a stable home, and that feels harder to acheive when costs of living seem to demand, for many, dual incomes and living paycheck to paycheck.

CalRobert 8y ago

I wonder when "wait to have kids" starts to become bad advice. It was one thing to wait until high school, then college, but it seems like a _lot_ of people I know are waiting until they're financially stable and then discovering they're not there at 35 years old and looking at a hockey stick curve for likelihood of autism, etc. It's part of why my wife and I had a kid at 34. Not to mention that if having kids is so great (and so far I do quite like it) we should logically want to maximize the time we have our kids in our lives, not minimize it. More generally, though, I think this is a problem of how in an age of plenty we demand a huge chunk of your waking hours just to produce enough income to live whatever we've decided is a decent life, though a lot of this time is spent making other people - be they landlords or people who bought a house in the 80's or 90's, rich. Working half the hours generally means far less than half the pay, and many women see that their careers are destroyed if they take time out to raise a kid (perhaps some men do too, but it usually falls to the mom).

irrational 8y ago
At least people should be educated about the possible effects of having children late in life as part of high school sex education. I have quite a lot of coworker women that are in their mid to late 30s who are astonished to learn that there are potential complications associated with having children at that age. Without exception they have expressed the desire that these potential complications had been communicated to them earlier in life.
onetimemanytime 8y ago
>>I wonder when "wait to have kids" starts to become bad advice. It already is, but people try to balance to the best they could--given today's reality (Congrats! You're 22 but no money and no "good father material" so...wait). Our genes weren't developed in the last 4 decades where women work and seek careers and then think of having children. It's not sexist or misogynistic, it's the reality of our genes. 22 is a woman's best age to have kids. The more you postpone, greater are the problems, even for the children. Pregnant women over 35 have/had to do the Down Syndrome echo. Why? Because women over a certain age are more likely to have children with issues. This may apply to men as sperm cells have had, say 50 years, to screw up the copying or to get damaged.
- ianai 8y ago
  The “quote” from someone is along the lines of “The most valuable person to society is a young woman. The least valuable person to society is a young man.” As a man, I experienced that quite acutely. Still do though now I “have more to offer” and I sometimes feel like I’m being valued more than I was in the past. It’s hard to tell through the years of abuse and bullying. We live in a dysfunctionally sick culture.

toast0 8y ago

Having kids in your early twenties helps with a lot of physical aspects, but a lot of people aren't ready to be in a long term committed relationship at that point, so it would seem that it's sacrificing emotional well-being for physical well-being. Certainly both factors feed into the other. I think a lot of what's pushing people to have kids later is the desire to have a stable home, and that feels harder to acheive when costs of living seem to demand, for many, dual incomes and living paycheck to paycheck.