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It's the natural result of becoming a biped. I'm a healthy, fertile female, and the thought of having my baby grown inside a surrogate or outside of my body sca
by creep 8y ago
It's the natural result of becoming a biped. I'm a healthy, fertile female, and the thought of having my baby grown inside a surrogate or outside of my body scares me. I don't have kids atm and may never do, but if I did I'd carry my children myself (assuming it's possible for my body to do so at the time).
I've heard all the horror stories, I've watched every video, and birth is completely terrifying-- but every mother describes it with an additional sense of gratitude. They're thankful their bodies can do it, that they have now a child they love, and also they feel so much stronger for it. There's a certain spiritual sense about going through so much pain and taking so much risk to give life to another human being. That feeling must be powerful.
- ianai 8y agoCertainly, I appreciate my mom and mothers deeply. This is such a stretch its not comparable but it’s the best I’ve got: Every gift a girlfriends given me just made me feel so grateful (not sure how to describe it). I had a girlfriend once crotchet a hat for me. The whole time she was making it for me I felt such deep care for me. I can’t begin to imagine how I’d feel taking care of my soon to be mother of my child. It’s possibly the most human experience. Doesn’t keep me from wishing there was more we could do.
- lazyasciiart 8y agoThere's something wrong with your sample. I personally know multiple mothers who deeply regret the physical damage done by pregnancy and birth, and don't feel even a little bit stronger for having spent a month on hospital bed rest with pre-eclampsia, or tearing their vaginas during birth and being unable to lift their own newborn baby, or weakened abdominal muscles from pregnancy so she still isn't allowed to run with her baby now five months old, or spending six months unable to keep down water and losing weight due to morning sickness. They're grateful to have the kid, yes, but they don't delude themselves that it was a wonderful spiritual experience.
- philipov 8y agoNot everyone is even grateful for having the kids, and feel coerced into it by society, family, and spouse.
- isoskeles 8y ago> society, family, and spouse Got it. Anyone but themselves.
- philipov 8y agoYeah, blame the victim some more. That's a good look.
- creep 8y agoI mean, if you have a kid because society tells you to have a kid, I'd say the kid is the victim and that the adult made a poor decision under pressure. That's not victimhood, that's a mistake.
- ianai 8y agoThough victims being pushed into bad choices by coercive people is a thing. But these are of course just labels. Only so helpful.
- lazyasciiart 8y agoWell, people don't usually consider themselves to be coerced by themselves, so it makes sense that anyone who feels they were coerced into it is blaming someone else.
- creep 8y ago>but they don't delude themselves that it was a wonderful spiritual experience. For some it is. For some it's not. I was providing a counter-example to the OP's lament.
- lazyasciiart 8y agoIt sounded like you were making a claim about all women, so I wanted to make it clear that this does not hold for all women.
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