Politeness is all about rules. A society where people tend to follow complex rules of social interaction is polite, even if it becomes very violent if someone b

Politeness is all about rules. A society where people tend to follow complex rules of social interaction is polite, even if it becomes very violent if someone breaks those rules. That's why they are rules in the first place: they are enforced with violence or shame. I don't think I'd be able to find a single large society where people are polite but face no risk of violence or intense social shame when they break the rules.