I don't want to pile on, but I worked in numrel on binary blackholes and I have my gripes about the general gw community, but this is definitely not one of them

I don't want to pile on, but I worked in numrel on binary blackholes and I have my gripes about the general gw community, but this is definitely not one of them. In fact, the GW community is probably one of the most open ones in physics. It's just such a hard subject that no one would survive acting like you describe.