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I don't want to invalidate your experience, but, jeez, I really feel awful for anyone that has to live in a world where they're constantly wondering if their fr

I don't want to invalidate your experience, but, jeez, I really feel awful for anyone that has to live in a world where they're constantly wondering if their friends are trying to take advantage of them. Most situations in life aren't zero sum, what's good for them may very well be what's good for you. Even less situations are zero sum and material; one patient's business is not likely to make or break a psychiatry practice so why not give good advice (misery loves company after all, healthy outcomes probably exponentially generates new customers). This is especially apparent when the alternative is often some faceless person(s) on the internet who may very well bring their own (unknowable to you) biases to the table.

DoreenMichele 8y ago
I've had the following college classes: Intro to Psychology; Social Psychology; Negotiation and Conflict Management. I had a corporate job for over five years. Part of that job was looking for "red flags" and referring it to the fraud department if it looked fishy enough. I also was taught proper procedure for how to handle a file where I had conflict of interest in order to protect the company legally (Answer: You don't. You leave note and send it back to the queues and let someone else handle the file.) Framing this as opinion based on "my experience" is basically hanging an awful lot of baggage on me and acting like I've simply had a sucktastic life surrounded by people I can't trust, etc. It's a pretty ugly suggestion and not only serves to invalidate me, it invalidates the point entirely by presuming it has no real basis other than "Wow, that woman must have the worst life ever. Sucks to be her, I guess." And that's really not a good faith means to engage the point.
- Domenic_S 8y ago
  This exchange is a wonderful example of why amateur/anonymous advice shouldn't be automatically taken as better than professional advice! You are both filling in the blanks with your own experience and biases.
  - DoreenMichele 8y ago
    I never said it was automatically better. Where are you getting this nonsense? I only indicated that there are situations where one might want to hear from an uninvolved outsider for perspective and this is one reason why "amateur advice" in newspaper columns can have genuine value for some people. Anyway, I'm done here. This entire discussion is completely off the rails from my perspective.
- lordCarbonFiber 8y ago
  I thought ending the comment with "signed anonymous internet person" might be too on the nose but apparently not.

DoreenMichele 8y ago

I've had the following college classes: Intro to Psychology; Social Psychology; Negotiation and Conflict Management. I had a corporate job for over five years. Part of that job was looking for "red flags" and referring it to the fraud department if it looked fishy enough. I also was taught proper procedure for how to handle a file where I had conflict of interest in order to protect the company legally (Answer: You don't. You leave note and send it back to the queues and let someone else handle the file.) Framing this as opinion based on "my experience" is basically hanging an awful lot of baggage on me and acting like I've simply had a sucktastic life surrounded by people I can't trust, etc. It's a pretty ugly suggestion and not only serves to invalidate me, it invalidates the point entirely by presuming it has no real basis other than "Wow, that woman must have the worst life ever. Sucks to be her, I guess." And that's really not a good faith means to engage the point.

Domenic_S 8y ago
This exchange is a wonderful example of why amateur/anonymous advice shouldn't be automatically taken as better than professional advice! You are both filling in the blanks with your own experience and biases.
- DoreenMichele 8y ago
  I never said it was automatically better. Where are you getting this nonsense? I only indicated that there are situations where one might want to hear from an uninvolved outsider for perspective and this is one reason why "amateur advice" in newspaper columns can have genuine value for some people. Anyway, I'm done here. This entire discussion is completely off the rails from my perspective.
lordCarbonFiber 8y ago
I thought ending the comment with "signed anonymous internet person" might be too on the nose but apparently not.