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Thanks for your thoughtful reply > A cheats way I see your cheats way is to put words into somebody else's mouth, which should work in an environment where t

by evex 8y ago

Thanks for your thoughtful reply > A cheats way I see your cheats way is to put words into somebody else's mouth, which should work in an environment where there are more than 2 senior devs, but we are only 2 seniors, so the "I read in Knuth that" method should work. How can I get my respect back and not cheat around the issue? should I dive into more advanced topics and show it in my work?

ggm 8y ago
Maybe, find a mentor outside this relationship and without breaching your NDA and company obligations explore your ideas, and competencies and gain back some sense of self-respect because somebody you trust shows you it again? Professional development, in field can help. I have a colleague who does FP, but can't find enough tasks at work to use Haskell on, and he does a monthly functional-coders meetup and gets a huge amount out of it. I found asking other people if they'd hire me gave me a lot of confidence around how I felt in role. I didn't waste their time actively seeking jobs, but exploring what you are worth outside your current role can be validating. It pays to have options. My cheats way is really not ok btw. You can't sustain denying your own ideas. But, once you can get over the sense its a game they're playing and the actual ideas have merit, its somewhere to move from. You maybe get an ah-HAH moment from it but I suspect that doesn't play well (37 years in, I'm only too well aware of hearing my own ideas played back at me. It used to infuriate me but now, I take it some kind of compliment they finally soaked in, if other people take ownership of them)