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> Still, when my parents told me they were going to give me about $2,000 a month, [...] I took it, spent part of it helping my then-boyfriend pay off his studen
by eatbitseveryday 8y ago
> Still, when my parents told me they were going to give me about $2,000 a month, [...] I took it, spent part of it helping my then-boyfriend pay off his student loans and put the rest in the bank.
> When my boyfriend suddenly left me (as men in New York are occasionally known to do), I had to pay $1,450 a month for rent on my own ($17,400 a year) on the lease we had just started, not including utilities. I quickly drained my own savings and found myself completely dependent on the gift money from my parents.
Why spend your money on another when they can just leave you later? They won't give you that money back. What did he do to earn your money (parents') to pay his student loans off?
- ZeroFries 8y agoEven marriage doesn't guarantee safety from a break-up, yet most marriages split finances. Suppose you thought with all sincerity you would get married, then helping your partner makes rational sense, especially if your partner is paying interest on a loan. That's your future joint account being drained.
- toasterlovin 8y agoTo be fair, the level of commitment in a marriage is much higher.
- Kaveren 8y agoCaring about a person can make you do nice things for them and support them even if that results in a financial loss. If one is of good character, and able to help someone they have a good relationship with, they will do so.
- eatbitseveryday 8y agoMy concern was more about responsibility. I do and buy things for my friends, like dinner, or presents, but I'm not going to pay for their student loans because that's a significant burden that would place me in a financially unstable situation (as the author admits herself to).