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> your employees won't stop having sex with each other Haven't there been studies indicating that our environment and physical proximity to a person greatly fa
by everdev 8y ago
> your employees won't stop having sex with each other
Haven't there been studies indicating that our environment and physical proximity to a person greatly factors into our sexual attraction?
It is a little paradoxical that companies try to bring everyone together after work for fun and bonding but then discourage workplace relationships. Many lasting relationships I know of share some type of polarity or power dynamic, so it's not too surprising how the recipe is there for consensual intimacy. Harassment, goes without saying, but even consensual relationships with business power dynamics can be a legal and ethical disaster for the parties involved and the business.
Might be a good case for remote workforces.
- Uhhrrr 8y agoEmployees having sex with each other sounds like a case against remote workforces to me.
- osrec 8y agoWhy so? If people are physically further away from each other, I would say the probability of romantic relationships forming is less.
- simonsarris 8y agoI think the parent is implying that, given how hard it is to stop employees from having sex with each other, it seems that employees want to have sex with each other, so remote work is in this sense a downside.
- osrec 8y agoAh, so it's more of a downside from the perspective of the employee, not the employer (which was the perspective of the original quote).
- munk-a 8y agoI agree with that assessment, which I think is a pretty toxic view to have. Everyone is going to work to do work, get paid and go home. Two coworkers might be open to a relationship, but if someone is walking in with the assumption that work is a good way to find a partner then their presence is just going to degrade the working environment for everyone else. (And yes we're all just human and such and such but we've got social contracts around maintaining a decorum so what you feel doesn't have to be openly expressed)
- rhacker 8y agoI don't know if that's so much a "view" that people carry and are like - who can I have sex with today? I think it's more like, damn life is lonely and I have a hard time finding a partner. I'm not in school anymore and I don't meet anyone else.
- almost_usual 8y agoNot sure why you're being downvoted. From what I've gathered people who create these kinds of relationships at work don't have much of a life outside of work. That narrative makes sense for the founder role, you'd constantly be working and obsessing about the success of your company. It also makes sense as a startup employee, you put in serious time and energy when a company begins. If you don't have friends or social functions outside of "going to work" I guess it's inevitable that you'll date a coworker.
- munk-a 8y agoBut I think that's an issue, if you're a founder without much relationship ties outside of work then will it influence you to hire more people you think you might develop a relationship with? This is a really _really_ grey area since it's nice to work with people you enjoy interacting with, so that does seem like a valid hiring motive, but it's unacceptable to filter potential hires by people you'd enjoy going on a date with. Basically, in summary, it's pretty hellishly complicated and if you can avoid workplace romance you'll probably be happier for it.
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