> You should have come to me for help, like I advised you. Nevertheless, lets look at how you can solve your problem now So in the end you _still_ have to deal

> You should have come to me for help, like I advised you. Nevertheless, lets look at how you can solve your problem now So in the end you _still_ have to deal with the mess they made? And you further enable their behaviour by both making it your problem to solve and fixing it? This approach only works if the other person is interested in improving - and if they were, they would ask for help in the first place.