I had a pretty similar experience, so I didn't post much at first. You used to see people getting called out for not following site norms, being told to "lurk f

I had a pretty similar experience, so I didn't post much at first. You used to see people getting called out for not following site norms, being told to "lurk for 2 years before posting" but you don't see that anymore. I think that type of self-moderation is really good for maintaining a quality community, but it selects for a certain type of user so most people don't like it.