To play devil's advocate why is it so upsetting that people don't want to use they? (seriously just playing devil's advocate here) It's not a big deal until s

To play devil's advocate why is it so upsetting that people don't want to use they? (seriously just playing devil's advocate here) It's not a big deal until somebody makes a big deal about it, on either side of the issue. What we have is one group making a HUGE deal about pronouns, and another equally making a HUGE deal about not using pronouns. At the same time each side is saying each other is horrible. It's not a big deal until you make a big deal about it...