Ask what he/she did wrong in his/her life and things at which he/she failed. Don't be fooled with "quiet soft-spoken voice of reason" and other outside behavio

Ask what he/she did wrong in his/her life and things at which he/she failed. Don't be fooled with "quiet soft-spoken voice of reason" and other outside behavioral decoration. These things can be learned. School where I learned this: odesk.com.