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It's interesting that the default for most people, past adolescence, is to not realize it really is other people. It took me a long time to realize that other p
by itronitron 8y ago
It's interesting that the default for most people, past adolescence, is to not realize it really is other people. It took me a long time to realize that other people's bad moods, scowls, glares, etc. were 99 out of 100 times a reflection of them and not me. Kind of freeing, but also kind of scary when people that are clearly in terrible moods are your coworkers :/
- ma2rten 8y agoIn my experience it's most often no ones fault. It's just miscommunication.
- saiya-jin 8y agoIts true that communication issues are the source of most of the conflicts generally. But there is something else - as a grown up, it took me some time to realize and accept just how many other grown ups have various issues, are imbalanced, carry scars from messed up childhood and so on. If you spend some time with them, over time these will start to surface in various, often nasty ways. Its a mistake to try to be friend with everybody. Life is too short, rather invest time and energy into those relationships who are worth it, ie give back, help when you need it etc.
- bobosha 8y agoThis seems to be a case of a fundamental attribution error. Human interactions are dynamic - a 2 way street if you will - and viewing oneself as separate and removed is self-serving.