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I played a game with a random PUBG streamer (less than 5 viewers) recently that I felt went fairly well, except for a few moments when he drove off without me a

I played a game with a random PUBG streamer (less than 5 viewers) recently that I felt went fairly well, except for a few moments when he drove off without me and came back a minute later apologizing. He communicated very poorly and in the end, I had 4 kills and he had 2, i went down and he died trying to save me. Then he rage quit and muttered something or other as he disconnected. I thought I must have said something to set him off. We seemed to get along fine, we had decent team chemistry but I figured I pushed the guy's buttons. It really bothered me so I sought out his videos and luckily he had recorded it. I expected to find I wasn't nearly as pleasant as I thought I was. Nope, he was just an asshole. He was talking to someone behind him for several minutes and was on mute for about a quarter of the game, which explained a few moments of tension where he wouldn't respond or communicate at all in crucial parts. I watched a few other games of his with random people, and he'd do the same thing: be pleasant at first, die, rage quit, repeat. Sometimes it really is the other people.

itronitron 8y ago
It's interesting that the default for most people, past adolescence, is to not realize it really is other people. It took me a long time to realize that other people's bad moods, scowls, glares, etc. were 99 out of 100 times a reflection of them and not me. Kind of freeing, but also kind of scary when people that are clearly in terrible moods are your coworkers :/
- ma2rten 8y ago
  In my experience it's most often no ones fault. It's just miscommunication.
  - saiya-jin 8y ago
    Its true that communication issues are the source of most of the conflicts generally. But there is something else - as a grown up, it took me some time to realize and accept just how many other grown ups have various issues, are imbalanced, carry scars from messed up childhood and so on. If you spend some time with them, over time these will start to surface in various, often nasty ways. Its a mistake to try to be friend with everybody. Life is too short, rather invest time and energy into those relationships who are worth it, ie give back, help when you need it etc.
- bobosha 8y ago
  This seems to be a case of a fundamental attribution error. Human interactions are dynamic - a 2 way street if you will - and viewing oneself as separate and removed is self-serving.

itronitron 8y ago

It's interesting that the default for most people, past adolescence, is to not realize it really is other people. It took me a long time to realize that other people's bad moods, scowls, glares, etc. were 99 out of 100 times a reflection of them and not me. Kind of freeing, but also kind of scary when people that are clearly in terrible moods are your coworkers :/

ma2rten 8y ago
In my experience it's most often no ones fault. It's just miscommunication.
- saiya-jin 8y ago
  Its true that communication issues are the source of most of the conflicts generally. But there is something else - as a grown up, it took me some time to realize and accept just how many other grown ups have various issues, are imbalanced, carry scars from messed up childhood and so on. If you spend some time with them, over time these will start to surface in various, often nasty ways. Its a mistake to try to be friend with everybody. Life is too short, rather invest time and energy into those relationships who are worth it, ie give back, help when you need it etc.
bobosha 8y ago
This seems to be a case of a fundamental attribution error. Human interactions are dynamic - a 2 way street if you will - and viewing oneself as separate and removed is self-serving.