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On the other hand, you could get a lawyer to vet it. Or, if you wanted to give it more heft, get a divorce lawyer to write a chapter or two about the legal rami

by qohen 16y ago

On the other hand, you could get a lawyer to vet it. Or, if you wanted to give it more heft, get a divorce lawyer to write a chapter or two about the legal ramifications or how a lawyer like him/her see these things. You could pay the lawyer to do it or give a cut of the profits. In addition to allaying your concerns, it might also let you charge more for the product. I say all this because I'm not sure how easy it would be to sell a slice-of-life type of eBook vs. How To's, which are all over the place. Slice-of-life would work on a blog, though, which you could monetize with Google Ads, ads from other networks, etc., but that's not likely to be as good as an eBook. Though you could also monetize it by being an affiliate for related eBooks and regular books -- if you went to ClickBank.com you could probably find some related eBooks that you could get commissions for and similarly with Amazon w/r/t dead-tree books. One other idea: start small with a short report -- say 10-20 pages -- and sell that cheaply, say $9.99 or less--and see what happens. And/or give it away to build up a mailing list, if you can think of how to sell related stuff. This sort of thing is done a lot.

Mz 16y ago
Thanks for all your feedback. One of the reasons that I don't do well with "giving advice" is because other people generally cannot do what I do and I get reactions like I am suggesting they should walk on clouds, "What? Like it's hard?" (channeling Elle Woods). Showing them the path I took and why I think it worked is more likely to be instructive and helpful and inspiring. In the original discussion, someone indicated that most divorces are done without lawyers. To me, this is actually encouraging information. I know there are do-it-yourself divorce books that address the legal side of it. I really don't think the lack of a lawyer is what blows people's minds. I think the "genuinely amicable" part is what blows people's minds. Most people I talk to who are divorced have ugly nicknames for the ex and are clearly still quite bitter and carrying substantial baggage. I have had a number of experiences where women have tried to dump on me on the assumption that I would agree with their deeply hostile view of men. It is an extremely inaccurate assumption. So I think if there is anything instructive about my experience, it is that putting down your baggage can be done and that life generally goes smoother if you do that. This is not the type of information that goes over well as "advice" because the people who most need it are in a mental and emotional space where suggesting they let it go is generally received as judgmental, unsupportive, not understanding and so on. But a good story they can identify with and a good cry might help whereas a lecture tends to just make their bitterness and baggage all the more intractable.

by qohen 16y ago

Mz 16y ago

Thanks for all your feedback. One of the reasons that I don't do well with "giving advice" is because other people generally cannot do what I do and I get reactions like I am suggesting they should walk on clouds, "What? Like it's hard?" (channeling Elle Woods). Showing them the path I took and why I think it worked is more likely to be instructive and helpful and inspiring. In the original discussion, someone indicated that most divorces are done without lawyers. To me, this is actually encouraging information. I know there are do-it-yourself divorce books that address the legal side of it. I really don't think the lack of a lawyer is what blows people's minds. I think the "genuinely amicable" part is what blows people's minds. Most people I talk to who are divorced have ugly nicknames for the ex and are clearly still quite bitter and carrying substantial baggage. I have had a number of experiences where women have tried to dump on me on the assumption that I would agree with their deeply hostile view of men. It is an extremely inaccurate assumption. So I think if there is anything instructive about my experience, it is that putting down your baggage can be done and that life generally goes smoother if you do that. This is not the type of information that goes over well as "advice" because the people who most need it are in a mental and emotional space where suggesting they let it go is generally received as judgmental, unsupportive, not understanding and so on. But a good story they can identify with and a good cry might help whereas a lecture tends to just make their bitterness and baggage all the more intractable.