I expect they're paying you a lot - maybe more than you've ever made before - so you feel under pressure to deliver straight out of the gate to prove your worth

I expect they're paying you a lot - maybe more than you've ever made before - so you feel under pressure to deliver straight out of the gate to prove your worth. Well, remember several things: * Probably no one you directly work with will know how much you're being paid, so they're unlikely to judge you as being overpaid * It takes time for everyone to build the mental models of how systems, tooling and codebases work. Expecting anyone to be productive straight away is unreasonable and would be a massive warning sign if they were putting pressure on you like that. You haven't mentioned that they are, so you're probably just putting yourself under pressure. Having said that, making staff feel insecure and always needing to prove themselves is no doubt a "productivity" strategy for some companies to try to make people to compete, work late, etc. If that's the case, I'd just walk - or at least recognise it for what it is and refuse to play that game. That's one purpose for "bonuses" I've seen - making unreasonable demands on employees seem fine because they'll get their "bonus". Over the years I've gained far more (financially and in quality of life) from having strict work/life boundaries than colleagues who consistently worked late. After all, if the deal was $x for y hours per week then if y increase, so should x. In my last (very well paid) job I felt very anxious for the first month or two. I was surprised to feel stressed about meetings to the point I almost had to leave several to go to the toilet because I felt physically sick. I'm quite outgoing, normally confident and good at what I do so I was surprised about this. But it really was caused by being paid so much that I put myself under pressure in case they thought they'd made a bad decision and let me go. Over a month or two though it passed. Just hang in there until you find your niche. The people there who seem to be really "on point" just know how things work. That'll come with time as you gain more experience. Until then, be kind to yourself and try to relax as best you can until you ride it out. And don't work late to compensate. Get quality relaxation time instead or you'll end up in a vicious cycle of tiredness, under-performance, etc. For your other "big issue" that's just a learning process. I doubt you need to "rewire" your personality - just learn some tricks to allow it become a little more fluid and adaptable. We all act to some extent - you just need to broaden your repertoire. I expect there are courses online to help you become better at running and organising meetings, developing rapport, etc., so try looking those up (sorry I've never taken any of those so can't recommend any specifically but perhaps try Lynda.com).