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It all depends on your definition of judgment. Of course we all judge, that's how we choose to be with the people who do us good and are pleasant to associate w
by complex1314 8y ago
It all depends on your definition of judgment. Of course we all judge, that's how we choose to be with the people who do us good and are pleasant to associate with, and avoid others who are not. (And basically navigate life in a way that is safe and healthy). But it is not a value judgment, just about making good decisions.
But putting people in a hierarchy where some people are better or worse than others (in particular in respect to one self) is IMO rooted in insecurity, it makes us feel good to put ourself in the same box as people we admire and above those we loathe.
Personally I love being with people who are not judgmental (by putting value on people, and yes they exist). And funny thing is that it is contagious, I feel much less like being judgmental when being around those people. The opposite is also true, the easiest people to judge are those who just judged someone, in particular if they judged me.