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Pdimitar, thank you for sharing. I really appreciate it. I'm sorry that you are going through a terrible period right now. I feel like I'm a little in a simila

Pdimitar, thank you for sharing. I really appreciate it. I'm sorry that you are going through a terrible period right now. I feel like I'm a little in a similar boat in that I am turning down lucrative opportunities that don't resonate with me... and still trying to navigate that but I am confident that you'll be able to succeed your way out of this slump! You've gotten this far, I think you're just having a small road bump. I totally agree with you. I hope to find balance. For me when I said hedonic treadmill and raising expectations, I wasn't talking about material objects. The number one thing I'm afraid of is always reaching for another personal growth bar. I find success painful. I think I might have success ptsd haha. I've already lost "friends" multiple times, every time I grow. Every time I've grown, I can no longer be happy with where I was or what I achieved. I thought it was good enough to help build businesses that do $100k/mo and then 2-3x that but I just met someone who takes $100k/mo businesses and 5x that. Now the bar has raised and I can't be happy with the success I have achieved so far. And I hate the treadmill of consistently achieving because in my experience it brings pain emotionally and socially as you leave people behind. Unfortunately I know that's the way it is - but I wish I can get better at managing the highs and lows.

pdimitar 8y ago
Oh gods. Seems I made a wrong assumption and just wrote an essay about it. Please accept my apologies, if possible! Looking at it from the side -- I think you are quite okay but still compare to the others. That can be a good motivator but you should stop at some point because it can get very exhausting for your soul. And it can make you pursue outcomes that you will eventually find out you never wanted in the first place. > Now the bar has raised and I can't be happy with the success I have achieved so far. ...But why? Are you aiming at having a network of luxury real estate in Europe and renting that until the end of days? Do you like the idea of a fleet ot private jets or yachts? If not, you should not have any PTSD in my eyes. If your basic needs are met and if you can afford to travel and work on whatever tickles your fancy then you are already in the top 10% rich people in the world. Why is that not good enough? > I find success painful. I can sympathize with that. As mentioned in my previous post, some money come to you attached with a lot of stress and maintenance baggage. Is that the case with your money? I hope not... But if so and if you have enough of them accumulated then you can always hire somebody to manage those for you. Less stress is always worth investing into! > And I hate the treadmill of consistently achieving because in my experience it brings pain emotionally and socially as you leave people behind. Unfortunately I know that's the way it is - but I wish I can get better at managing the highs and lows. That many people are envious and spiteful and drift away from you if you are a better achiever than them is a part of life, an inevitable one at that. I am sorry that you haven't found true friends yet. But they do exist, trust me! There are a lot of pretty cool people out there. You will find them if you get out of your zone. And I am pretty sure you will manage your highs and lows better with time. Just don't second-guess yourself; life is one huge and constant lesson and you never really "complete" it. You just decide one day that enough is enough and you can stop there. Nothing shameful in that, we don't live to only achieve. Wanna chat? My email is in my profile (although a bit obscured to stop spam bots). I feel we both can offer the other side an interesting perspective. If not, apologies for offering it! No disrespect intended. Don't give in to doubts. Reflect on what you have (and others don't) and don't only compare to more successful people than you. Life is not a race. I think you are doing quite well.

pdimitar 8y ago

Oh gods. Seems I made a wrong assumption and just wrote an essay about it. Please accept my apologies, if possible! Looking at it from the side -- I think you are quite okay but still compare to the others. That can be a good motivator but you should stop at some point because it can get very exhausting for your soul. And it can make you pursue outcomes that you will eventually find out you never wanted in the first place. > Now the bar has raised and I can't be happy with the success I have achieved so far. ...But why? Are you aiming at having a network of luxury real estate in Europe and renting that until the end of days? Do you like the idea of a fleet ot private jets or yachts? If not, you should not have any PTSD in my eyes. If your basic needs are met and if you can afford to travel and work on whatever tickles your fancy then you are already in the top 10% rich people in the world. Why is that not good enough? > I find success painful. I can sympathize with that. As mentioned in my previous post, some money come to you attached with a lot of stress and maintenance baggage. Is that the case with your money? I hope not... But if so and if you have enough of them accumulated then you can always hire somebody to manage those for you. Less stress is always worth investing into! > And I hate the treadmill of consistently achieving because in my experience it brings pain emotionally and socially as you leave people behind. Unfortunately I know that's the way it is - but I wish I can get better at managing the highs and lows. That many people are envious and spiteful and drift away from you if you are a better achiever than them is a part of life, an inevitable one at that. I am sorry that you haven't found true friends yet. But they do exist, trust me! There are a lot of pretty cool people out there. You will find them if you get out of your zone. And I am pretty sure you will manage your highs and lows better with time. Just don't second-guess yourself; life is one huge and constant lesson and you never really "complete" it. You just decide one day that enough is enough and you can stop there. Nothing shameful in that, we don't live to only achieve. Wanna chat? My email is in my profile (although a bit obscured to stop spam bots). I feel we both can offer the other side an interesting perspective. If not, apologies for offering it! No disrespect intended. Don't give in to doubts. Reflect on what you have (and others don't) and don't only compare to more successful people than you. Life is not a race. I think you are doing quite well.