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Downvoted because this is your personal struggle and trauma, whereas the “bad parenting” discussion was really just about screen time. Just letting you know. Bu

Downvoted because this is your personal struggle and trauma, whereas the “bad parenting” discussion was really just about screen time. Just letting you know. But please talk to someone about it if you’re not already.

ddingus 8y ago
I have no struggle. Those events were hard. No doubt. Not the point. It was an answer to the question of why bad parenting discussions often are met with angst. People get questioned on parenting, and suddenly they are in the middle of a mess and they are there because other people said, "bad parent" essentially. Understanding how that can happen is germane. Here is all it would take in many States: Those parents just leave their kids with an iPad, and do not watch their kids. Follow that with just about any scary scenario and it is likely to trigger people at your door asking questions. What I did here was share a little from the other side of some of those events gone bad. None of those should have happened. They all were rooted in literally, "bad parent" allegations created out of thin air with basis as thin as "screen time." Parents here should be aware of what can happen. Comments to the effect of, "WTF is it with parenting discussions?" These potential events are part of WTF. Frankly, I only shared difficulty to underscore complete disapproval, and I should have shared we quit due to how out of control and abused it can be, and is regularly. Some if those families were of non trivial means too. "It won't happen to me." Know I have seen otherwise, and that is all.
ddingus 8y ago
By the way, I really appreciate you giving the reason for the downvote. Kudos! I rarely downvote myself, preferring to promote signal out of the noise instead. But that's just my preference. What I appreciate is knowing why, that's some understanding right there. I can use it, it's got value. I wish more of us would understand that.

ddingus 8y ago

I have no struggle. Those events were hard. No doubt. Not the point. It was an answer to the question of why bad parenting discussions often are met with angst. People get questioned on parenting, and suddenly they are in the middle of a mess and they are there because other people said, "bad parent" essentially. Understanding how that can happen is germane. Here is all it would take in many States: Those parents just leave their kids with an iPad, and do not watch their kids. Follow that with just about any scary scenario and it is likely to trigger people at your door asking questions. What I did here was share a little from the other side of some of those events gone bad. None of those should have happened. They all were rooted in literally, "bad parent" allegations created out of thin air with basis as thin as "screen time." Parents here should be aware of what can happen. Comments to the effect of, "WTF is it with parenting discussions?" These potential events are part of WTF. Frankly, I only shared difficulty to underscore complete disapproval, and I should have shared we quit due to how out of control and abused it can be, and is regularly. Some if those families were of non trivial means too. "It won't happen to me." Know I have seen otherwise, and that is all.

ddingus 8y ago

By the way, I really appreciate you giving the reason for the downvote. Kudos! I rarely downvote myself, preferring to promote signal out of the noise instead. But that's just my preference. What I appreciate is knowing why, that's some understanding right there. I can use it, it's got value. I wish more of us would understand that.