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It is truly scary the number of men in this thread who apparently do not understand what you're saying, as basic and obvious as it is.
by exogeny 8y ago
It is truly scary the number of men in this thread who apparently do not understand what you're saying, as basic and obvious as it is.
- DoreenMichele 8y agoWhen cultures go through radical changes, it is inevitable that some percentage of people will continue to operate under "the old rules" long after that has become problematic. If it isn't a problem for them in specific, they may honestly not realize it is A Problem. Operating under the old rules is frequently not (apparently) problematic for well established people who belong to a privileged class. For purposes of this discussion, that would be men who make good money and see themselves as "catches" because of it -- edit: which describes a large number of HN commenters -- sometimes while being quite bitter about all the gold digging whores in the world and failing to see that if you bait your hook with money, you shouldn't be surprised if that is the type of fish you attract. Additionally, some blind spots are genuinely rooted in personal disability. Lack of social savvy can be due to Autism Spectrum Disorder. I have two sons who likely qualify as ASD. I find it very effective to give them helpful tools for navigating the social landscape and avoiding the worst errors they could make due to their personal handicaps. I find it quite counterproductive to blame them as if they are being troublesome on purpose. I try to keep that in mind when framing comments of mine. I'm human and I don't always get it right by any stretch of the imagination. But that's where I'm generally coming from.