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> Sexual overtures at an office party: not good. Interesting. Multiple women I know started dating co-workers (in entirely different parts of the company) at w
by manfredo 8y ago
> Sexual overtures at an office party: not good.
Interesting. Multiple women I know started dating co-workers (in entirely different parts of the company) at work parties, and did not think it was bad or unusual. Perhaps interpretations of statements like "don't be a creep" are a lot more diverse than you think.
- itronitron 8y ago'office party' is an oxymoron, but then I've never lived in California
- 0x8BADF00D 8y agoIt all depends on how attractive you are as a male. If a woman is repulsed by you physically, then even being in the same vicinity will be construed as harassment. But if a woman is physically attracted to you, anything you say is fair game and even welcomed. So in the end “don’t be a creep” doesn’t mean anything.
- manfredo 8y agoWhile "even being in the same vicinity will be construed as harassment" is hyperbolic, there definitely is a sense that women expect men to divine whether or not they want to be asked out beforehand. The reality is that the only way to know if someone is interested is to ask them. Saying things like "read the signs" often just either discourages men from making any move at all, or emboldeneds men to make more socially unacceptable advances because they think they've read the signs. I think this is a big part of why online dating is growing in prevalence. Why take the social risk of being labeled a "creep" when you can go to places where whether or not women are interested is determined upfront?
- exogeny 8y ago>there definitely is a sense that women expect men to divine whether or not they want to be asked out beforehand This statement alone says everything I'll ever need to know about what your real problems are with women.
- jrnichols 8y agoRule #1: be attractive Rule #2: don't be unattractive