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I don’t live in US. While I understand what’s real offense (including disrespectful jokes), I have concern about “guilty till proven innocent”. If I’m attracte

I don’t live in US. While I understand what’s real offense (including disrespectful jokes), I have concern about “guilty till proven innocent”. If I’m attracted to someone and I want to date. How you can ask to go out without risk of being accused of sexual harassment? This is not sarcastic question. This is especially important if you as a male is not very good at reading subtle social cues. P.S. I really don't see why it got downvoted. There is no hidden message here.

framebit 8y ago
Please read this: https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/10/4/17933530/sexual-assault-me-too https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/10/4/17933530/sexual-a... The negative encounters get lots of loud attention, rightfully so. This author is making the point that women don't have to protest, speak up, or report all the totally normal, healthy encounters they have with men.
the_gastropod 8y ago
If you're the person's superior at work: don't. If you're a peer, you use your words and respectfully ask if they'd be interested in going out.
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- cimmanom 8y ago
  This. And if she declines, you respect that and treat her professionally, without retaliating.
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djohnston 8y ago
honestly man just don't ever date/hook-up with your coworkers, it will almost always cause more trouble than it was worth
paulie_a 8y ago
If you are an investor you look elsewhere for a date. If you actually need to worry about something being considered sexually harrassing, you definitely need to reconsider how you approach women. It's really not that hard, I've dated numerous co-workers over the years and never had any fears over that or issues when we broke up. Be polite, not over bearing and be respectful. The time will either present itself to ask or it won't. If it goes your way, great. If it doesn't move on.

framebit 8y ago

Please read this: https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/10/4/17933530/sexual-assault-me-too https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/10/4/17933530/sexual-a... The negative encounters get lots of loud attention, rightfully so. This author is making the point that women don't have to protest, speak up, or report all the totally normal, healthy encounters they have with men.

the_gastropod 8y ago

If you're the person's superior at work: don't. If you're a peer, you use your words and respectfully ask if they'd be interested in going out.

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cimmanom 8y ago
This. And if she declines, you respect that and treat her professionally, without retaliating.
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djohnston 8y ago

honestly man just don't ever date/hook-up with your coworkers, it will almost always cause more trouble than it was worth

paulie_a 8y ago

If you are an investor you look elsewhere for a date. If you actually need to worry about something being considered sexually harrassing, you definitely need to reconsider how you approach women. It's really not that hard, I've dated numerous co-workers over the years and never had any fears over that or issues when we broke up. Be polite, not over bearing and be respectful. The time will either present itself to ask or it won't. If it goes your way, great. If it doesn't move on.