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If it’s to this point she needs to leave.
by JustSomeNobody 8y ago
If it’s to this point she needs to leave.
- colanderman 8y agoThat's not helpful advice to someone trapped in an abusive relationship.
- colanderman 8y agoTo clarify: if someone is at the point where their SO is snooping around their phone at night, there is a potentially dangerous power imbalance in the relationship. Step one is not "leave". That may not be possible without catastrophic effect in some cases (think stalking, violence, blackmail). Rather, step one is to prevent the toxic SO from gaining more power over you. (Step two is to reduce their power.) Technology that automatically prevents them from snooping on your digital life is a great way to do this. (And yes, it is best if the tech is a given. If a toxic partner notices that you are taking actions to keep them at bay, that can be dangerous too. E.g. this is why Facebook broadcasting idle time to everyone in your network is terrible for those with stalkers. The implementors of that feature should be ashamed.)