These categories seem senseless to me. What does remembering a name have to do with holding a compelling conversation? What does remembering language syntax hav

These categories seem senseless to me. What does remembering a name have to do with holding a compelling conversation? What does remembering language syntax have to do with performing quick mental math? If someone has been doing poorly socially they may tell themself, "I'm a brainy tech person, not some vapid socialite" or if they are struggling with a difficult technical concept they may say, "I'm good at talking to people, I'm not a nerd." I think the truth is that any behavior has a corresponding skill and any skill can be learned. Which skills come more easily, I believe, are a matter of past experience and conviction of one's ability to learn that skill rather than a matter of "giftedness". Licking a wounded ego is tempting and people love to be a part of some group that bears a shared identity. Doing so, however, doesn't make you more skilled and likely does the opposite by depriving you of the conviction that a skill can be learned.