1. Decide clearly what you want: be ready to negotiate. 2. Gather evidence. 3. Get professional counseling (usually that means lawyer up). 4. Decide what you wa

1. Decide clearly what you want: be ready to negotiate. 2. Gather evidence. 3. Get professional counseling (usually that means lawyer up). 4. Decide what you want and DON'T WANT to do. The latter is much more inpoetant than it seems. 5. Get counseling again. Is the plan feasible? How? Refine the plan 6. Act Hacer news is not a good counseling source: you get what you pay for.